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How to spend time with The Lord without feeling guilty

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As a Christian, my struggles are not external, they are all internal. The Devil uses guilt to keep us stuck, to make us feel like bad Christians and that guilt stands in our way to having a thriving relationship with The Lord. Continue to read as I share how to spend time with The Lord without feeling guilty.

It’s so important to combat guilt- to know how to shift our thoughts when we feel guilty and not let it derail our relationship with The Lord.  

5 things Christians feel guilty about in their walk with God: 

Those were just a few things I’ve felt guilty about in my walk with God. Have you felt any of these? 

This is a short list, and I’m sure there are more! 

I share this because I want you to know that The Devil loves to make us feel guilty. That you are not the only one who has these thoughts and feelings and there are things we can do to throw that guilt away. 

How to spend time with The Lord without feeling guilty

1. Understand God wants to spend time with us. 

He loves us so much He died for us so that we could spend eternity with Him, but that’s not it. God wants to spend time with us NOW!  

The Lord calls all of us to come to Him. Not just to come to Him, but to bring Him our burdens. He wants to take our burdens from us, not give us more to carry. 

These verses remind me of when Jesus tells his disciples to let the children come to Him 

In a physical sense, we’re not children, but we are ALL God’s children and He wants each one of us to come to Him.

The Lord wants to spend time with us, are we going to let Him in? 

The first thing we need to do is to understand that God wants to spend time with us. The second is to know that God meets us where we are. 

2. God meets us where we are

There is this idea that before we meet God, we need to “get better” or change. That’s not the truth. God meets us where we are, and then brings us along to change us to be more like Him. 

The perfect example of this is the story of The prodigal son. I know most of you already know it, but it’s worth it to read it again. 

11 Then He said: “A certain man had two sons. 12 And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.’ So he divided to them his livelihood. 13 And not many days after, the younger son gathered all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal living. 14 But when he had spent all, there arose a severe famine in that land, and he began to be in want. 15 Then he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. 16 And he would gladly have filled his stomach with the pods that the swine ate, and no one gave him anything.

17 “But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you, 19 and I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Make me like one of your hired servants.” ’

20 “And he arose and came to his father. But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him. 21 And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight, and am no longer worthy to be called your son.’

22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. 23 And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry; 24 for this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ And they began to be merry.

Luke 15:11-24

This is the story of 2 sons- meaning this is talking about Christians. The Bible tells us that when we are saved we become sons of God. Since we are women, we can claim that as daughters of God. 

So there are 2 sons: One of them walks away and lives a life away from God. They party it up, they spend time with fake friends.

Who knows what this son did, but none of it was good. It led him to a pretty desperate life- eating food out of the pig pen. 

When we live in the world, we consume what it has to offer- fame, fortune, work, ect. And it leaves us hungry and empty because it’s empty. 

The son who’s living in the world comes to his senses. He knows that a life with his father is way better than what He has now. So he goes back. 

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God sees us

Then the scripture tells us that: when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him. 

God sees us where we are and is waiting for us to come back to Him. 

Jesus has already paid the price for your sin, and there is no sin too great to separate you from God. 

God is waiting for you, all you need to do is turn to Him. 

The Devil loves to tell us that God won’t forgive certain sins. That we knew better so God won’t take us back. 

But that’s not true! There is nothing you can do that God can’t forgive.

The older son was living a hard life. When he got to his father, he was probably wearing dirty, smelly clothes, who knows when it was he bathed last. Yet none of that mattered to the father.

The Lord loves us in our sin, takes us in our imperfections, and forgives all of it. Then, he helps us change to be more like Him. 

When it comes to reading our bibles and praying, there is this fear that maybe God doesn’t love me anymore. It’s been months since I prayed. Months since I read my Bible. 

This gap grows our fears and makes us think it’s too late, it’s been too long. But none of that was true. 

The Lord loves us regardless of how often we spend time with Him

My parents live across the country and I call them about once a week. But if I miss calling them for a couple of weeks, they aren’t mad at me. They still love me, they still love hearing from me. They don’t reject me because I missed a call. 

This would never happen in our earthly relationships unless that relationship was unhealthy. 

But our brain doesn’t connect that it’s the same with our relationship with God. He wants to hear from us all the time but doesn’t suddenly hate us if we don’t pray one day, or we miss our Bible reading time. 

Are those things good, yes, but they should not be what keeps us from turning to God? 

So, instead of focusing on the days you missed or worrying that God will reject you, focus on the truth. God is waiting for you, and will receive you- regardless of how “dirty you are”.

We have talked about how God wants to spend time with us and He meets us where we are. The third thing we can do is one simple mind shift. 

3. One simple mind shift 

Being a Christian is not a religion, it’s a relationship. 

I’m sure you have heard this said before, you might even say it yourself. But, even though you know this, you don’t practice it. 

Give me a minute to explain what I mean. 

I have had many relationships in my life, and each has taught me something about what a relationship with The Lord can look like. 

For example, My husband and I just celebrated our 15-year anniversary. 

I love my husband very much but I don’t spend all day every day talking to Him. Neither of us would get anything done. 

We talk every day, but most days those conversations are about coordinating schedules/activities and sharing highlights and low points in our day. 

I spend time with my husband every day, but I don’t consider this type of interaction as quality time. But, once a week, we have a date night and that is when we spend more time together and talk about more important things. 

If that is how I relate to my husband, why can’t the same be true with my relationship with God? 

There seems to be this expectation that Christians have to spend a huge chunk of time studying their bible every day to have a good relationship with God. 

This expectation is ridiculous, as most of us can’t do that every day. 

Don’t get me wrong, spending quality time with The Lord on a daily basis is good, but we need to stop measuring our spirituality with how often we pray or read The Bible.

The number of times we pray or read The Bible doesn’t measure a person’s relationship with God. 

So, instead of letting these unrealistic expectations make us feel guilty, I challenge you to think about it like any other relationship. 

I have a quick question for you and I’d love to see your answer in the comments below. How often do you text your best friend each day? 

For me, depending on the Friend, it can be anywhere from 1 to 10 times a day. These are small touch points we have with our friends and we can do the same with God. I call these everyday prayers. 

Everyday prayers

We can add prayer to any activity and touch base with God throughout our day. These prayers don’t have to be long or follow a pattern- just a check-in. 

For example:  Give me patience- I probably pray this at least 5 times a day. More when the kids were home all day. 

Sometimes it’s not even words, I’m taking a deep breath in and out and I’m doing so in the presence of God. I know He knows what I need at that moment and that breath represents me asking Him for help. 

I’ll give you another example of a simple prayer from this past weekend. My husband and I were supposed to drop our kids off at a friend’s place for the day to have a whole day as a date day. But, our oldest daughter wanted to attend a wedding, and the friends who were looking after the kids had other plans so we were not sure how it all would work out. This wedding was really important for my daughter and she wanted to go so I quickly just prayed: help us figure this out. 

And He did- and it all worked out. 

So, you can spend many moments in prayer in your day but it doesn’t have to be this liturgy. You can also have simple verses in your home or routine that you read throughout your day that you meditate on. 

Quality Prayer Time

But then, plan to spend quality time with The Lord at least once a week. So for me, I learn best and grow when I’m in a small group setting reading and talking about God’s word. So, I deliberately schedule being in a small group once a week or once every other week. Those are the times that help me work things out in my brain and understand scripture a bit more. I love it. 

So for me, I was already spending time with God regularly and growing in my faith, but I still felt guilty because it didn’t fit this box I was told was “the right way to do things”. 

All it took was this simple mind shift- seeing that I am spending quality time with God on a regular basis. 

So I didn’t even need to change anything. All I had to do was to understand that my relationship with God may look different than yours- and that it’s ok. 

Don’t get me wrong, there is always room for growth and increasing the number of times I depend on God- but I encourage you to look at what you’re already doing and not at what you’re not. 

The Devil’s lies

Now, maybe some of you may be thinking- I’m not doing any of those things, I’m the worst Christian out there. 

Those thoughts are lies from the devil trying to discourage you. Go back to step 1- Know that God wants to spend time with you

So to get started- pick one thing you are already doing and add prayer to it. 

For example, I stopped listening to music when I’m in the car alone. I now take those errands as prayer time. It’s amazing the number of things I can pray through in those short car rides. 

Then once you’ve added The Lord in a couple of areas in your life, you add more. It doesn’t need to be all or nothing. 

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