9 Ways to Express Anger

Growing up, I had a lot of anger. As a Christian, I felt that it was sinful to feel anger and to express anger. So, instead of expressing how I felt  I would stuff it in. In this post, I will share with you 9 ways to express anger.

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The problem with stuffing my feelings is that there is only so much room for all the emotions I was feeling and it was inevitable that I would explode. 

My explosions were full of screaming at my family and throwing things violently. 

I knew that my actions were sinful but I had a hard time knowing how to express anger.

After some reading, I realized that anger itself is not sinful but that the way we choose to express anger can be sinful.

The Bible says


““Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:26‬ ‭NKJV


a night sky with the words Be Angry and so not sin over it.

Freedom to be angry

God shows anger and so did Jesus. Since God is perfect and can’t sin He must have expressed His anger without sinning. Since God Himself can express His emotions, then so can we?

Once I had figured out that I could express anger, it gave me so much freedom. I hated lashing out and hurting the people around me and wanted to ding a better way. 

2 ways to express anger without sinning

I think the best way to express anger and any other emotions is to get stop bottling emotions and to find healthy ways to express our feelings.

1. Confront

The Bible is very clear that if we feel hurt or sinned against then we need to seek that person out and talk to them.



Moreover, if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭18:15‬ ‭NKJV

a couple sitting next to eachother outside. Backs facing the camera with these words on top: If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.

The best way to express anger is to clear the air with the person we are angry at and get on the same page.

In the heat of the moment, it’s probably best not to say what’s on your mind. If you are in a situation where someone is making you angry, step away and don’t respond right away.

It’s best to take a break, calm down, pray about it and then seek that person out. If you respond in anger then things will only get worse.

2. Let it out

The best way to express our anger is to let it out. I have learned the hard way that keeping emotions in is not healthy. The emotions add up and soon we can’t control what comes out of our mouths. 

So, if you don’t want to blow up then it’s best to find ways to express how we feel when we feel it. 

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7 Healthy Ways to express anger

1. Yell

The best way for me to express anger is to yell.

I like a good fight or argument and when I am frustrated there’s nothing better than to have a good fight.

Unfortunately, not many people can have a fight without getting hurt or ruining a relationship.

When I first got married, I soon realized that my husband does not like confrontation and will not engage in an argument.

So, I had to find a solution. Thankfully, my younger sister is similar to me. She likes a good argument but married a non-confrontational guy. What were we to do? One day, my sister called me up and we ended up in a good fight. After she said: thanks, I really needed to fight. I laughed and we both moved on. We expressed some pent-up frustration and were able to do so without hurting each other.

I know that my situation is unique and most people don’t have people they can do that with.

If you like to yell and scream then do so. Just not at another person. Yell in a pillow, outside, or alone in your car. These will satisfy your need to yell and no one will get hurt (except for maybe your voice).

2. Punch something (not someone)

When I was younger, all I wanted to do when I was angry was hit something. Sometimes my emotions would get the best of me and I would be physical towards my sibling. Other times  I would go into my room and rip paper and hit my pillow.

One of the ways I express anger was by hitting my pillow was never satisfying. I always wanted something better to hit.

What I really wanted was a punching bag. Now that my kids are getting older, I might just get one. Not just for me, but for them as well.

Punching a bag gets out frustrations and spends energy. It feels productive and is very helpful.

3. Put on some music

I love music! and listen to it all the time. Music helps me express anger by expressing what I can’t in my own words.

There are some music that I listen to when I am angry or upset that helps me express what I am feeling and get me out of that feeling. 

When in doubt, put some music on.

  • Click to hear some of my go-to songs.  (warning: these are not Christian songs and are a bit unconventional but they do the trick) 

4. Eat something sweet

One way I express anger is by eating something sweet. I can’t always do this because if I ate something sweet every time I felt mad or frustrated I would be the size of a house.

But, I do have a stash of chocolate in the house. When I am feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, the best way to feel those things is to just dig in and eat some junk food.

For me, it’s sweets. I have a friend that dips into the peanut butter.

Whatever your go-to is, don’t feel guilty about just having a bite. Chocolate has some magical powers to help heal all anger. But be careful to not indulge too much or make food a crutch. It’s a delicate balance and one I seem to always be walking.

5. Exercise

Since my go-to comfort food is chocolate, it might be best to find a healthier form of therapy.

The healthiest way to express anger is to use all my pent-up energy and exercise.

I have never caught the exercise bug. I wish I enjoyed it and used it as a coping mechanism. It is something I am trying to add to my day since I know there are many benefits, but I just can’t seem to figure it out.

Tell me in the comments the best forms of exercise that help you release some anger. 

6. Clean

There are some people out there that express anger by stress cleaning or clean to relax or express anger. I wish I was one of these people. Their houses are always clean and their emotions make them more productive.

Getting up from the couch and doing something is a great way to use some of the energy you have from being mad.

Instead of taking out your anger on a person, you can hit the floor with the broom or dust aggressively.

7. Make something

The next best thing to a punching bag is a batch of dough. If you are a baker, there is something about kneading dough that is extremely satisfying and may help you express anger. Cooking uses all the senses and is extremely therapeutic.

The best part is that you usually end up with an edible finished product. Not only does cooking help express emotions, but it can be externally productive.

There are many things that you can make that will help express anger and help release some of the energy you have from anger or frustration. Look at what you love to do and ways you can express yourself when you do it. 

In the comments below tell me some things you do to express anger in a healthy way.

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