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4 Biblical principles we can teach our teenagers

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In the fast-paced and ever-evolving world we live in, guiding teenagers on the path of moral principles and values can be both challenging and crucial. How can we effectively teach them the timeless wisdom of the Bible while equipping them with the knowledge and understanding to make informed decisions? 

Join me as I speak to Natasha and we shed light on the art of biblical principles we can teach our teenagers. 

In this episode, we highlight the importance of setting healthy boundaries and consequences for teenagers. We stress the need to go beyond teaching isolated Bible verses and focus on their practical application in daily life. 

By helping our teens understand the reasons behind good choices and the consequences of poor decisions, we empower them to navigate the complexities of the modern world. 

Stick around as we share how we can equip ourselves with the tools to build a solid Biblical foundation in the lives of our teens, empowering them to make choices rooted in love, guided by God’s word.

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[00:02:45] Teaching kids about healthy boundaries and consequences, emphasizing the principle of love as the ultimate law.

[00:07:10] Teach children to love and protect by planting flowers and nurturing them to maturity. 

[00:09:38] Teaching children the truth of God’s word, and the dangers of making up rules based on feelings.

[00:14:05] Embracing boundaries can lead to freedom and enjoyment without worry.

[00:16:00] Teaching children about following Christ and being part of God’s family through everyday experiences and actions. 

[00:20:07] Teaching children to prioritize God and make wise choices.

[00:22:52] Biblical principles on sex education.

4 Biblical principles we can teach our teenagers

1. Principle of Love

Our kids get hurt and we don’t want to see our kids hurt. That is hard, we don’t want to see them get hurt, so we step in.

But, that is not always useful. We need to help our kids understand that they have choices, but they also have consequences.

Anything we do, we should do out of love. The ultimate principle is love. Because God says to love and Lord God with all your soul, mind and strength, and love your neighbour as yourself.

Putting God first

Since God loves us so much, we want to love God first. So this is our first order. So everything we choose to do in life is based on God’s principles.

If we don’t have that, how do we make choices in our life?

The first thing we have to do is explain what the principle of love means to our teenagers.

This principle protects and takes care of ourselves, and helps us grow to full maturity in all areas of life.

Love is not an emotion, it’s an action.

So if God says to love the Lord your God, all your hearts, all minds strengthen you as yourself, this is the first, biggest command.

Can we command an emotion?

How I asked my kids this or how do you teach your kids this day? You will go to school today and you will enjoy it. You can command your children to go to school, but you can’t command them to enjoy it.

We can’t command an emotion. So we get to choose to love ourselves.

Teach your children to love themselves

When we understand God’s principle of love, and that we can choose to love ourselves, it helps us in many areas.

We can use this principle when it comes to teaching our children about peer pressure and protecting themselves from STDs, unplanned pregnancies, alcohol, drugs, and everything else.

We do this by asking them if they are loving themselves.

Because when they are busy with other teenagers that are smoking, do you think somebody that smokes cares about their lungs? So if they don’t care about their own lungs, why do they care about yours?

That’s why God says to love your neighbour as yourself.

So we need to be clear as ourselves, meaning it’s first God, then you, and then your neighbour.

So if you don’t protect your lungs, you want to protect your friends.

So when you teach our kids this principle, we need to show them or that child loving himself, then we need to go out and teach them to encourage their friends to love themselves as well.

When your teenager comes home and tells you about friends that are doing certain things, you can ask: Do you think they love themselves? You can also ask: are they protecting themselves or do they make choices to keep themselves safe? Are they applying the principle of love?

We are encouraging our children to put things in proper order. It’s ok to love your friends, but first, you need to love God, then you need to love yourself, and then you can love your friends.

2. Principle that God’s word is true

We all know that knowledge is power. But, we can’t just read Bible verses and recite Bible verses. We need to apply that knowledge.

We can’t just teach our children the principles, we need to teach them why this principle is important.

If we don’t tell our kids the truth, they’re going to Google it. And they will find the answers.

But we need to teach our children that God’s word is true and it’s the standard to build everything else on.

When we follow Christ, the word doesn’t change. It’s the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. God is always the same. Even if the world is changing, God never does.

4 Biblical principles we can teach our teenagers

God’s love is like Gravity

One way I explain God’s love to people is by sharing with them the rules of gravity. The laws of gravity never change regardless of how you feel, where you are, or what is going on around you.

We can’t change the law of gravity, it’s a force outside of us.

The laws of gravity don’t change.

As parents, we may not understand exactly what our kids are going through because the world has changed so drastically since we were growing up.

But we can help our children focus on God and who He is, and the way He wants us to live our lives.

His laws and His character never change. So we don’t need to understand every single issue but when we know God, we can teach our children who God is, then that helps them apply God’s truth to the experiences they have.

3. God’s boundaries

God’s presence and His laws help us feel safe.

There have been studies done about boundaries. One of them included kids playing in a schoolyard that was fenced. The kids were able to see what was just over the face.

Over the fence was a big natural environment with big trees and stuff. So they took down the fence to give the kids a bigger area to play in.

Once they took down the fence, they found that the kids started to play closer to the building rather than further out. Because the boundary made them feel safe and they instinctively wanted to feel safe.

This study shows us that even if we think we have freedom, it isn’t free.

The safety of God’s boundary makes us free and then we are able to play and ve joy in our life.

So we can teach our children about God’s boundaries so that they embrace that safety that God gives us.

4. We are part of God’s Family

This principle is easiest to explain with a story.

We get to go to heaven because we are the children of God. God opens the door because He knows us.

How do we explain this to children?

When you go play outside with your friends and you go home and knock on the door and your dad opened the door. When he sees you, will he open the door? How will he know you?

You have his surname and your dad knows your name and we do things a certain way in our family. Because of this, your dad will open the door.

When a stranger knocks on your dad’s door, will he just open it and say come in? No?

Our kids need to understand that when we are part of God’s family, we do things a certain way because this is what our family does.

We serve God in everything we do and what we have in this life is enjoying all the benefits of being part of God’s family.

What we do reflects on our family and God, so we have to watch what we do, and how we act so our good actions reflect well on The Lord.

Our faith is a relationship with our Savior. It’s not just a few actual stuff that we do, it’s known by our actions, but because we love our Savior.

About Natasja

The Ultimate Secret to Raising well-balanced teens

Natasja is an experienced counsellor and coach. Throughout her career, she has specialized in working with children, adolescents, and families. She has developed expertise in teen-parent conflict resolution, especially in the context of healthy sexuality.

Her expertise is helping families cope with day-to-day challenges and discover answers by looking at life through the lens of simplicity.

Natasja works as a Family Counsellor in South Africa, registered as Advanced Religious Professional in Christian Pastoral Counselling.

Through her private practice, Natasja Visser Counselling Centre, Natasja developed, Let’s EXplain coaching program. The program assists parents and teenagers with practical guidance to navigate through a risky world filled with sexual imagery and sexual exploitations.

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