As a mother of 3 and a wife of more than a decade, I know that it is very hard to make me time. Today, I am going to share with you 7 things you can do to make me time.
Life is busy and goes by so fast.
But, if you want a better marriage and a better relationship with your children, then it is important to take some Me Time.
What is me time
ME TIME is the moments you spend taking care of yourself.
This time can be used to take care of your physical needs, spiritual needs, creative needs or whatever you need to be healthy and happy.
7 Ways to Make Me Time
1. Kow how much do you need
Nobody is the same, so I can’t sit here and tell you how much me time you need.
For me, to be healthy, I need a bit of me time every day.
This time is either alone time-were I just need to sit in silence by myself. Or, I also spend me time doing something I love- which is writing and planning blogs.
I don’t get the same amount of time every day, but I do try to get some time that is just for me on a daily basis.
For you, this might be too much, or not enough. It’s important to understand what type of time you need, how much time you need and what you are going to do during that time.
2. Be selfish
Selfish can be a bad word. As a Christian, I was taught to be selfless and to take care of others and to not think too highly of myself.
As much as all those things are right, we also need to think about ourselves.
This does not mean that our needs always come before others, or that we need to put other people’s needs behind our own.
What this means is finding the balance between self-sacrifice and self-care.
We can’t serve others when we are empty.
Jesus himself took time away from the crowd to spend time with God.
6 And he withdrew himself into the wilderness, and prayed.Luke 5:16 (KJV)
If God incarnate needs time away, then how much more do we need?
Now that we know how important time to ourselves is, how do we make time for ourselves?
3. Find something you Love
When I figured out I needed to start doing something for myself, I had no clue where to start.
So, I asked myself a few questions. To help you find your purpose or passion, download this free ebook.
The book will guide you through finding your passion. Once you have figured out what you love to do, now it’s time to find a time to do what you love.
Through this process, I discovered that I had a passion for writing and sharing ideas with the people around me. That is when I started blogging.
4. Talk to your husband
If you are feeling tired, empty and a bit lost then it’s time to talk to your husband. Tell him how you feel and what you feel you may need.
You might be surprised and find out that your husband has no problem with you taking a night out every week or doing a particular chore that you hate to take some work off your plate.
When I discussed my feelings with my husband, he was extremely supportive.
As mentioned above, I went through a process of self-discovery to find out that I loved to write. The only problem was that I had no motivation to write without an end product. That is why I chose to blog. Blogging gave me a focus and an audience to keep me accountable.
He supported me by letting me invest in my blog and things that would help me publish my blog.
Not only did I find what I loved, but I also needed more. I needed a meaningful connection with female friends.
We discussed those needs and he encouraged me to contact friends and make plans to get together with them.
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5. Make a routine
As a couple, you need time to be
- with friends
- with friends
- and the list goes on
Balancing 2 people’s needs for friendship, service, spiritual growth and marriage intimacy is very hard.
It takes planning
Each year, my husband and I sit down and we talk about what sorts of activities we want to be involved in and how many nights a week we are ok with us being together or apart.
These details change on a regular basis so it is important to have this conversation often.
For my husband and I, we have agreed that I go out Tuesday nights and he goes out Wednesday nights. The rest is time we spend together, with family or friends.
This has to be flexible because my husband travels for work and may not be home on the nights we have discussed.
So, we often compromise to make sure we each get the time we need. If things don’t work out one week, then we try to make sure it does for the week after.
It is not a perfect system, but we are both happy and seem to be able to work out the details.
6. Let things go
During the day, I spend a lot of time working on my blog. This means that things around the house don’t always get done.
Sometimes the laundry piles up or the dishes only get done once a day.
To lead healthy, balanced lives some things need to be let go.
It is impossible to do everything, so it’s important to choose those things that feed our souls and then not worry about those other things that we have not done or can’t get through.
7. Start now
If you are not used to taking time to yourself that’s ok. It took me a while to figure out what I needed.
But, it’s never too late to start.
- Pick up that book you have been meaning to read.
- Go out for coffee with that friend
- Sleep in
- Go on a date
In the comments below, share how you make time for yourself. Please share this post with others. Thank you.