My oldest daughter turning 10 this year and I am freaking out a bit. So, I want to make sure that I make the most out of the time I have with my kids. In this post, I will share 10 ways you can make the most out of your time with kids.
It seems impossible that she is 10. The time since her birth has flown by and every day I realize that we don’t have that much time with her.
We only have 8 more years before she is an adult.
That is not that much time!
10 years may seem like a long time, but realistically they will fly by and before I know it we will be celebrating her 18th birthday and she will be going out into the world.
The idea makes me miss her already and makes me mourn the time I wasted and have not taken advantage of.
So, the only solution is to make the most out of the time we have left with her.
But making the most of the time can be hard, that is why I made a list of the things you can do to make the most of the time you have.
I have also created a free resource that will help you plan out your time.
10 Ways to Make the most out of the Time with Kids
1. Plan Ahead
I am not the biggest planner, but I find that blocking off certain days for activities in my week helps me be more productive and able to spend quality time with kids.
How I plan my week/month
To plan out my week and month I make a list of all the recurring things I want to do.
My list looks like this:
- Date night/ 1 night a week
- Husbands night out/ 1 night a week
- Children program/ 1 night a week
- Mother-daughter date with Meredith/ once a month
- Mother-daughter date with Madeleine/ once a month
- Daddy daughter date with Meredith/ once a month
- Daddy daughter date with Madeleine/ once a month
- Daddy son date with Seth/ once a month
- Mother-son date with Seth/ once a month
- Family fun night/ once a week
Putting it all together
Once I have my list, I then fill out my calendar.
So for us, our month may look something like this.
2. Put your Family First
When my husband and I make our calendars, we put our family first. That means that we will in our family time first and then if there are slots left then we add to what we want to do.
3. Make time with kids
When something is important to you, then time is not a factor.
Each of us has so much time, but we always think that we don’t have enough time.
The truth is that we have all the time we want for the things we like.
I never seem to lack time to blog, write or spend time with friends, but always use lack of time as an excuse to spend quality time with my kids or clean my house.
To make time with kids, I have to make that a priority and maybe say no to something else.
4. Don’t overcomplicate things
Quality time with your husband or time with kids does not need to be elaborate or complicated.
When I was younger, my dad would go grocery shopping every Saturday morning. One morning he invited me to come with him. We both enjoyed it so much that it became our ritual. Every Saturday morning I would go grocery shopping with my dad.
It was a great time together and I will never forget it.
So, it’s not so much what you do with each other, but that you spend time together and your child feels loved and paid attention to.
But time with your child can also be more planned out and special. These times may take a bit more planning but are always worth it.
There are so many things you can do with your kids.
Things to consider when planning a date with your child
- What does your child enjoy?
- How much energy do YOU have?
- What will the weather be like?
- How much money will you spend?
- Do you have transportation
- How will nap-time affect the activity?
5. Be Flexible
When planning time with Kids, it’s important to be flexible.
Life has a way of throwing curveballs and unexpected things. When that happened, then it’s important to be flexible.
When my children were younger- I would make plans to go to the park or something else. But then my child would be sick or need a nap when I had planned to go out. In those moments, we need to learn to take our cues from our children and have flexibility.
It’s OK to change your plans or even drop a date night. The most important factor is that you don’t make skipping quality time a habit.
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6. Talk to your child
When spending time with kids, it’s important to take the time to talk to your child. This is a necessary step in getting to know your child.
When you talk to your child, you learn all sorts of things. This such as their likes, their dislikes, and what they enjoy doing.
You can also learn what type of time they want to spend with you and whether or not they feel like they are spending enough time with you or need more.
All 3 of my kids love spending time with me. But, my eldest likes to sit and chat, while my younger 2 just want uninterrupted mom snuggles.
When you know what they love to do, it’s easier to plan quality time with them.
7. Plan with your child
My oldest daughter loves to bake, draw and sow. I try to do one of those things with her once a week.
But before we do, we will sit down together and look for ideas to inspire us.
Even the planning time is quality time. It shows your child that you love them and that you are excited about the things they want to learn and do with you.
We love to bake together so I made a private Pinterest board with all the things we want to make together. Then, when shopping day comes around, we have lots of recipes to choose from and we don’t waste time looking for recipes when it’s time for us to start baking.
8. Don’t push your child too far
If you are doing something with your child and you notice that they are not enjoying it, stop doing it! It’s that simple.
Don’t feel bad either if it’s something you thought they would love – kids are unpredictable!
They may love something one day and be indifferent to it the next.
When you know your child, it will be easy for you to know when they feel angry or worried about an activity.
When that happens, you can make the call as to how long you want your child to try and learn something and when it’s time to stop and try again another time.
9. Try again
There have been many times as a mother that I have tried to do something with my children and it was a complete fail.
The activity either stressed me out as a mom or was too much for my kids.
But, the negative experience does not mean that we should never do that again.
It just means that maybe it’s something you don’t do for a while and try again when the kids are older or you are more rested.
For example: when my oldest daughter was younger, I took out the play dough. I was so excited for her to play with it, but it was a complete mess.
The stuff got stuck in the carpet, on her foot and all over the house.
It got too much for me.
It took me a few years, but eventually,I brought out playdough again.
The next time I tried, the kids were older and I was more rested so it went so much better.
It’s OK when things go badly. You know your limits and it’s important to listen to them. But, don’t let one negative experience keep you from trying again.
10. Take the time
I hope that by reading this post you have come to understand that what you do with your child does not matter as much as just spending time with your child.
Your children just want to spend time with you. They are going to love anything you do with them because it’s with you.
To help you make the most of your time with your child, I have made this free planning guide. Click here to get your free parenting resources.
Check it out and let it help you make the most of the time you have left.
How do you make the most out of the time you have with your kids?
Make sure to comment below. I would love to know what you have to say.